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Oh wow the shift I feel just moving from the word anxiety to feeling afraid wooow thank you

Didn't you say in one of your videos that someone staying off drugs without a support group or program is almost impossible? So this is confusing.

Minute 48 is great for evenings

Love your videos! ❤ I am 18 months sober, with the kick start from my guardian angel 😇, and daily, hourly, and whenever I need it help from Jesus Christ. 33 year addiction to alcohol. I finally decided my children and grandchild are WAY more important to me than a neurotoxin. 🤯Spouse still drinking daily and has probably 50 years, with the exception of a few months stay in rehab decades ago. Spouse kinda mocked me at first when I announced my decision. But my children have never stopped encouraging me. I was open to AA but in the end was too introverted to go. In the end, anything is possible with God. One Day At A Time. 🪺🪴🔆 Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything. ♎️✝️ Most precious blood of Jesus Christ, save us and the whole world. 🩸🌎 O my Jesus, forgive us our sins, save us from the fires of hell; lead all souls to heaven, especially those in most need of Thy mercy. 💟 I lay it ALL at Your Feet Lord. Amen. 📿🛡️⚔️ IN NOMINE PATRIS, ET FILII, ET SPIRITUS SANCTI, AMEN. 🤍🩶🖤 Peace be with you ☮️❤ 🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏿

P.s. your eyes are poppin in that ❤red, and I love your nails, sis! 💅🏽

Congratulations on your UA-cam plaque and subs🎉🎊. You're a blessing to this platform. Addiction is so rampant and has affected me personally. I ended up leaving my husband as it got too unhealthy and painful for me and our child. However, I continuously pray that he'll heal and be free from his addiction. I pray that for everyone suffering from the disease and their families. 🙏🏾🤍

My sister is addicted to pain pills and is in denial , refuses help and blames me for not helping her anymore She has ghreatened to kill herself because she has no control over anything in her house hold .it is a very disfuntional marraige and she changed drom alcohol to pain pills Please help me help her

Ya I hung on to one at least at every try to quit I think I told em

My partner has always refused gettin help and always say he can do it on his own.... Im beyound frustrated and our relationship is suffering. He has decided to try outside help and im almost itching for him to start.

Thanks Amber I love watching ur videos. Ur a inspiration. I'm 36 days clean and doing ok it was the initial withdrawals that was rough

My wife has been smoking meth for 2.5 years and about 8 months ago started smoking crack instead. She cheats on me and I had her move out 5 months ago, we have a 16yo daughter that dearly loves her mother and craves her attention. She doesn't listen to me and thinks about getting high and hanging with friends, I just don't know what to do I'm lost and I still love her.

the bottom of your neck looks swollen (at least when making the video)... i learned that means a need for iodine

So true...I feel like that word is thrown around so badly 🤔

I sincerely hope my alcoholism kills me, i've been alive 20 years and my earliest memory includes me simply wanting to die. Im fairly attractive, im tall, im much more intelligent than the average person, im better than average at pretty much everything, yet, my strongest emotion has always been wishing for death. I have loving parents, I have lots of money, I get fed ever day, almost nothing bad has ever happened to me. I have been diagnosed with Aspergers, depression, insomnia and ADD. Nothing I do works, and ATM i've been drinking about half a bottle of hard alcohol every day for around 15-16 days, just to keep the hurt away. I dont expect anyone to see this comment, yet im writing this to put my thoughts into words. I've spoken to over 30 therapists, taken so many drugs yet nothing helps for long. No one I speak to has any idea how I feel, and I have a very easy time making friends, yet I never bother keeping those friends, as I simply dont care. So once again, if there is a god, that sick fuck better let me die in my sleep, and it better be soon, because I cant take this shit anymore. If you by the off chance read all this shit, feel free to ask me anything, ill answer any question with 100% honesty, because why not. Having kids is a dream ill never achieve, what if they turn out like me? I shudder at the very thought.

Thanks!

Hoping the desire is enough.

Dang!! Guys stop drinking i had a seizure two times already~the worst feeling ever and then rise in blood pressure😢

How do i leave and i dont have no where to go can take it no more

How do i leave and i dont have no where to go can take it no more

Thank you amber for that. I was working on my own about my drug addiction (and I still am, I don't do substances anymore but the struggle is there), but one KEY thing that helped me is that I have had therapy - my addiction kind of evolved simultanously, and because it was connected with chem s*x I didn't talk to my therapist about that, I didn't feel comfortable enough. So in the end I kind of resolved my issues from the past, ones that lead me to drugs, but was left with physical addiction. Quite interesting experience. AFAIK, in addiction therapy it's the other way around. I could "feel" when dopamine levels were off, and some thoughts were about to appear. Other thing that really helped me is my "way of thinking" - I am a theoretical physicist, I am very analitycal, and I was (and still am) very into the knowledge about addiction and psychology. You are one of my sources, so thank you again 💙

Wow.I didn't know that .💁🏽‍♀️

My husband has been able to stop several addictions this way. But he just trades one addiction for another. He used to do meth to the point of tin foil on the windows and thinking there were feds in the trees. That was before he knew me. After me it was sex. After our kids it was opiates. And he used to scream at me if I was too sick or tired with the kids for sex. After that, he tragically lost his oldest son to soo i side, and very shortly after that, he decided he was never going to sleep with me again. Some time later, he’s addicted to p0rN. And it’s not the kind you get for free. So he lies and hides and cheats and blames and screams and yells and terrorizes the children and me. Sometimes we don’t have enough to eat because he’s hiding the money. All to cover up his shame and his grief that he refuses to deal with. I’ve known he’s up to no good for 8 years. He was 43 when we got together. I’m younger than him. I was barely in my 40’s when he chose to end my sex life in trade for this illegal p0rN. The children remember how horrific he was to us and he can’t figure out why they want nothing to do with him now that they’re teens. Sure he could stop on his own, but right now, he’s not screaming at us. If he stops on his own, he’s surely going to become a monster to us again, because he’s not going to deal with his trauma and childhood bull. And eventually he will find a new addiction. And it might be even worse than the one he has now. I’m one of those women who has actually questioned whether I’m married to a potential serial killer because of how much he’s hiding from us.

Finally...some videos for the actual addict

I always say" the one thing an addict needs besides the substance, is a place to live." I have had several substance abusers live with me and they are well honed in their manipulation skills. There is non stop gaslighting and chaos. When i kick them out im the bad guy. When i see these addicts or those with untreated mental health problems, i cut contact immediately. The risk and ramifications are way to much. Mostly damage to my mental health. Theft. There is always theft involved.

I am in a relationship with a drug addict from past 4 years i still love him so much but he is not improving at all, everytime he says now i will leave all this but replases every time plz help me to get over this this is my very first relationship in life i am 21 yrs old plz.help me i dont know what to do i am so lonely at this point of time

Hint: Definitely not "Addiction " Whatever the hell that is

Another sign that a person is on pills (namely percs and loratabs) is that they won’t go to sleep for and couple days and then crash later on.

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I watched the rise & fall of a 20 year relationship over him turning into a raging alcoholic. When she filed for divorce, He said she was a whore & cheater. Half his friends would sit there and agree with him. He wouldn't tell the stories in front of me. For Divorce court she didn't call me. I might lie for him. He didn't call me, He knew I wouldn't. Woman who've been the wife property of a raging drunk know the kind of relationship I'm talking about, where letting him have you any way he wants is the best way to stop the violence. Your own mental illness is still trying to love the man through the Monster.

This caller reminds me of my husband. My husband has periods of sobriety, but continually relapses. Lost his job almost 4 years ago and has never fully committed to any program. I got help for myself and also try to follow Amber's advice, but I need to keep my kids safe and must move on!

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I've done all these things..he has expressed desire...he has tried..he has slso tried to make me his keeper..I refused..big..huge..fight...

My husband of 24 years has been the heavy drinker for the last 12ish years. I don’t drink, but I’m the one that feels like I’m dying, while he acts like he’s completely fine.

I have been following your advice on staying out of bad guy role and now they seem to be angry at that, like my being ok is making they're addiction more glaring. They get angry and almost are imaging Im mad when Im not or judging them when I am seriously not. Is this a good sign or no sign at all? They seem determined to make me the bad guy by picking fights even.

My mother, who lives with me and my alcoholic narcissistic husband, is a narcissist. My husband's mother, sister, brother, and I believe most of his family are all narcissists. My mother is in the early stages of dementia as well. This trailer is bad, a mess.. My health has gone down.. I have a very bad back condition called flat back syndrome.. the lower part of my spine doesn't curve. Meanwhile, I feel like most days I'm living on the outskirts of Hell!

my addicted partner has been missing for over a week now. i’ll hear from him here and there, but he left with no warning and left behind all of his belongings. I am so heartbroken.

I've watched my sibling destroy my family. My parent's enabled him, and now he's in his 60s and it's just mom. It's been over 25 years and my advice to anyone, would be don't become an enabler. If the addict won't change then you could really lose in the end. My parents never saw my kids wedding and have only seen their gr grand kids once. An entire family being splintered because of one person is horrible.

TY. My♥️is broken, my very young (only child)grandchild lives part time w/an addicted parent, for 4-5 yrs, the critical developing years.😭 I know my Gchild like myself! I’ve watched her lack of self worth, her caretaking mode & people pleasing ways! The other parent is a present parent! How to help?

Thank you, Amber! I have been trying for years to find these specifics about brain function and how addiction changes them. Now I have a basic understanding. Much appreciated! Thank you for all you do!

Happy to be free from alcohol addiction!

I am myself recovering, successfully. This seems to give me no ability to get through. My insight seems to accomplish nothing. I hear myself say the things that so many people said to me for decades. It's heartbreaking. It's really ironic, but I think the 12th step is the hardest. It breaks my peace that I worked so hard for, but I can not ignore the pain of my suffering friends.

When the dental state why I let him and belived him also let stuff slide and now regret it should make better decision and belive less there very good liars, and also protecting themselves make sense they want to be victim at times wow I'm with a bad person

So true, my sister is like a zombie now. She has fallen twice and suffered brain damage, due to the drinking.. Her face is frozen so she cannot smile or frown. She cant make conversation . Remember how to walk around the block. She walks in front of cars. Its like living with a 4 year old. She lost alot of things she loved, being a marine biologist. Everything that made life worth living. Now living with her mom and i. Eating , and listening to the radio. And thats it. She does love the radio channel CBC . And is going into assisted living when she is 65. A couple months away.

Nothing good ever comes from alcohol

I really need your help now

Thank you for all the information that you give families. It's so appreciated. Any advice for parents with adult children that don't live at home and avoid us when they are using.

I'm dealing, with a close family friend who is on meth! He totally doesn't want to communicate with me!! I have cut him off! He has hurt me in so many ways 😢 I've told him that if he needs help then I'm here for him! It's so hurtful breaks my heart 😢 yea he would tell me that I'm crazy! When he is actually the crazy one & he needs help 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Yes I get the silent treatment!

Thank you so much for making this video, Amber. 🥺 Thank you, both, for your vulnerability and openness, as well as covering the many complexities of grief on this topic. I am weeping watching this video and have a feeling I’ll end up watching it a handful of more times in the future to help me continue to process my emotions. I am so grateful for you and everything you share, and I wish you so much peace and many blessings.

Does it have to specifically be that you "grew up" with injustice and having to live with a persistent sense of unfairness? Admittedly, I'm a person who's become persistently angry at all times; I'm always on edge, always irritable, always impatient, always overly stressed. However, I haven't always been this way. In fact, I was a very naively optimistic and enthusiastic person (prime picking for abuse!), everything rolled off my back and I was always extremely idealistic and prone to naturally look for the silver lining in any situation. I am able to trace the origins of my transition to anger back to living under the influence of exploitative injustice, but it wasn't my childhood, it was my abusive marriage.